Don’t let past relationships ruin your future. Don’t let someone or something that didn’t make it in your life continue to hurt you. If you do, you’re still giving a portion of your life to something that no longer exists – it’s like letting your happiness slip into a black hole. Learn the lesson, release the pain, and move on. Scars remind us of where we have been, not where we are headed.
Most of us have been through a tough break-up at some point in our lives. The feelings of despair, hopelessness, sadness and loneliness we experience are often overwhelming, and often seem endless. Usually though, with the help of friends, family, and our undeniable human spirit - we eventually get over our heartbreak.
We slowly pick up the pieces, put ourselves back together, and move on, hopefully stronger and wiser in the end. Sometimes however, we can’t seem to “get over it”. We can’t seem to understand how the other person could have left us. We had so much invested in them emotionally, that we can’t even imagine life without them.
People often think closure is something we get from an external source: “If only I could talk to him/her again so I could understand…” Closure however, is about the feelings of peace and completion within ourselves.
It’s not always possible to get the answers from someone else, at least not the answers that will make us feel better about the situation. Relationship closure is an important part of emotional and mental health. Without it, we are unable to fully move on, commit to, and trust, someone new.
Every experience we go through is meant to teach us something, but it’s up to us to figure out what that is. We often create a fantasy world around our relationships, and when the relationship ends, the pain tends to be more about the dissolution of the dream than the actual loss of the person.
When things are real, honest, and truthful between two people, there are less surprises involved, and our needs our met. It’s extremely important that we learn to clean up our own backyard before venturing into someone else’s, and being honest with ourselves first is that all-important first step.
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